DIY. Seriously? Really?

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Recently I spoke with a woman who was looking for a coach to help her get promoted. She’d worked in this company for fourteen years and hadn’t been promoted in the last twelve. Ugh!

We had a very productive strategy session during which I helped her discover the ways in which she was standing in the way of her own success. We also developed a 3-step action plan for her to turn things around and get to the next level.

The connection between the two of us was great—the kind where you’re finishing each others sentences and laughing as you do. She fit my ideal client profile and I knew she’d have great success should we choose to work together.Given all this, I was STUNNED when we got to the point in the conversation when it was time for her to make a commitment to herself to actually enter coaching. Listen in…

She: This session has been very powerful for me and I would love to work with you…. But I’m not going to—

Nancy: Tell me, how did you get to that decision?

She: Listen! I should be able to do this myself. I’m smart and creative, I just need to buckle down and get it done. I need more discipline.  And I shouldn’t need to get help to do what I already know I need to do.

WHAT! I’ve listened in on many similar conversations, but this woman seemed to be particularly edgy, particularly committed to making herself wrong for not doing what she knew needed to be done. I’ve met countless other people who straight out told me that they needed support, and then back-pedaled because of the time or the money it takes to get it. That is CRAZY MAKING.

If you calculate the price you’re paying for ignoring the situation and it makes you cringe, get squeamish, feel embarrassed, angry or constrict you in any other way, then you probably need to take a deep breath and jump into help. Now!

Why? Because no matter how intelligent you are, there are two things most of us CANNOT DO FOR OURSELVES:
• Be objective
• Be accountable

When you have a problem or challenge, how do you determine when to DYI (do it yourself) or when to get support?

Here are some transformative questions you might want to ask yourself:
• Do you ask for help before you need it, because you’re afraid to trust yourself?
• Do you wait too long to ask for help because you’re sure that you can do it yourself?
• Do you believe that asking for help makes you appear weak, less than,not enough?
• Are you reluctant to spend money on something you ‘can’t see’?
• Does someone in your life criticize you for using a ‘crutch?’

So let’s say you’ve come to the realization that you’re tired of struggling, procrastinating or disappointing yourself and you’re ready to make your next transformation easy, stress free, and quick. What do you do next? You look for a coach or coaching group, a mastermind or forum in which other people, similar to you, are hanging out. They may not have your particular goals, or your challenges but what they do have is:

  • a commitment to move forward in their lives
  • to turn their potential into performance
  • to be happy, fulfilled and satisfied
  • Doesn’t that sound great! Support and encouragement and solid tactics from your peers and from an expert who has already accomplished what you want to?

    I’ve developed a brand new small group coaching program designed to get you where you want to go; to help you in every way possible. It’s fun, it’s results oriented, and it’s ridiculously inexpensive,  If you’re ready (or even thinking about it) to make 2011 your best year ever, check this out. You have nothing to lose except the fear.

    12 Weeks to Transformation

    That will “Turn Your Potential… Into Performance

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