Honestly Now—Did You Really Spend Your Childhood Dreaming About Someday Being A Nobody?

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If you’re like most of us, when you were a child you thought about all sorts of things you wanted to be when you grew up: Your favorite superhero, a movie star, astronaut, garbage collector, teacher, store owner, doctor, police officer, stunt woman, an actor….. you name it.

And I’ll bet you this:

It never occurred to you to grow up to be a big, fat, nobody! Not once. Ever.

Case in point— My launch career was as a special education teacher (bet you didn’t know that!) and during that time I never encountered even one child who said, “I want to be invisible. I want to blend in, play small, do nothing and die having accomplished absolutely nothing.”

Back then, in our childhood, we had dreams. Big ones, little ones, impossible ones as well as ones that would be easy to accomplish. It didn’t matter….they were dreams……………

When did we stop dreaming?

When did things become difficult?


When did losing at something become about us being a loser? When did we begin to believe that failing to achieve something meant we were a failure? When did we decide that our dreams were too big or we were too small?

I don’t suppose it matters.

What matters is only that you and I recognize that it happened (on a big scale or small one), and that today we…

choose to start dreaming again.

Yes, dreaming is a choice. Like most things are.

Something magical happens when we start fantasizing about how we would like our lives to look, and what feelings we want to feel.

Our minds relax. Our hearts open. We start to focus on our future. We complete our past.

You would not be given a hope, a dream,
a vision without the talents and gifts to make them real.
                                                                                                           – Solomonism # 237

We discover that the child we once were, we still are.

Seldom does a week go by when I don’t get an email or call from a coaching client who’s realized that she’s stopped dreaming, and that her life is now filled with pain, misery and suffering.

She says things like,

“I like my job, but what I really want to do is ..…”
“When I retire I’m going to do something I really love, something that has an impact.”
“I want to have more fun.”
“If I could do my life over, I’d…….”
“I want to make more of a difference in the world!”

And do you know what happens then?

She starts to think about these things. A LOT.

Then comes a flood of ideas…. you know… ideas of the “if I knew I couldn’t fail, what would I do?” variety. (Makes me giddy just to think about it.)

What comes next is….

A strategy. A written plan. Tactics.

But the best part is….

….the excitement, the anticipation, the relief, and the mindset that comes with dreaming again.

Between you and me,
what do YOU want to be when you grow up?

Tell the truth: What idea, project, or dream is just waiting for you to give yourself permission to get things going? What does your quiet inner voice tell you’re when sitting still, doing nothing?

You know what I mean….. it sounds something like this:

“I would just love to go to graduate school.”
“I have always wanted to open a bakery.”
“It’s time for me to stop working for someone else, and open my own business.”

SUMMARY: You have 100% of your life in front of you. What are you going to do with it?

PLEASE SHARE: We need to hear from you. Many of us think we’re the only ones with these thoughts. We’re not. And when we give voice to the impact we want to have in the world, it gives everyone around us permission to do the same.

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