The Most Humiliating Thing I’ve Ever Done!

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Actually, I’ve done so many humiliating things that it’s hard to keep track of them all. But this doozy tops the humiliate-her chart!

My main motive for sharing the single most humiliating experience of my entire professional
career is this…

Having already completely and publicly mortified myself, I might as well make certain it wasn’t a wasted experience.  If, by sharing this with you, I could save you an equal measure of humiliation, then it would be worth airing a bit of dirty laundry.

(Before reading on, go get a tissue—You’ll either be laughing or crying by the end of this page.)

Here’s what happened:

In the early 90s, I moved to the northwest from New York City.  Having abysmally failed to strategically plan this move, it wasn’t long before I’d run out of time, money, and ideas to launch my career.

I was—to put it delicately—EAGER TO GET BUSINESS!

Okay, so I was probably desperate the day I AGREED TO DO SOMETHING I HAD ABSOLUTELY NO BUSINESS DOING—speak to a group of 100 women about trends in the fishing industry.

Yes, the fishing industry.

Now, if you’re sitting there thinking, “Wait a New York minute… Nancy doesn’t

talk about the fishing industry. Nancy doesn’t know anything about fish. Nancy talks about empowerment, courage, leadership, life purpose and impact,” – well you would be exactly right!

Therein lay the problem.

I might also mention that this presentation was to be given gratis, for free, zilch, nada, zero moolah. I was promised it would be great exposure.

The exposure I got, however, was not the kind that I could use to my advantage. (You’ll see why shortly.)

A few weeks from the scheduled event, I forced myself to find out everything I could about fish and the fishing industry (the only thing I already knew was how to cook it and eat it.)

What’s more…I also had to learn about public speaking because I’d only recently added keynotes to my repertoire of talents.

My lack of experience on the platform had me rushing off to the library to learn how to tell a good joke or two from the podium.

Stop laughing.

Books in hand, I kinda sorta slapped a presentation together and on The Day, headed over to the venue, a local seafood restaurant. I dragged along my then-boyfriend so that he could video the entire production for what was to be my debut demo tape (ignorance is indeed blissful and, no, I never mustered up the guts to even watch it).

I am slapping my forehead as I recount this.

So there I was, just minutes before my keynote, when I realized in a flash of blinding brilliance, that I had no idea what the @%&%X* I was doing there—and that, in just a moment or two, 100 other people would be wondering as well.

In that moment I HATED my life. I hated me. I hated my new career. I hated public speaking. I especially hated fish.

I confess that as I stood in the restroom (sweat pouring down my armpits and pooling at the waistband of my skirt as my knees loudly knocked together), I calculated what it would take for me to run out of the door and throw myself in front of a speeding truck without incurring permanent body damage.

I approached the podium robotically—sweat still pouring, knees still knocking—and gave my speech. During Q & A—an inebriated man wandered in off the street. I was too nervous to notice that he didn’t belong there, and I actually answered his incoherent question.

Nobody makes this stuff up.

That night I returned home and drank my weight in wine.

The following day, I called the client who had invited me to speak. In the most undiplomatic rant, she shared her thoughts about my presentation, my total absence of industry knowledge and…in a nut shell, IT SUCKED.

None of what she said is fit to print.

(BTW- To this day, I cannot drive past that restaurant without my stomach flipping over.)

What mistakes did I make? How did I set myself up to fail? Why did I accept an opportunity that didn’t belong to me—that guaranteed I’d disappoint myself?

1.    I WAS DISCONNECTED FROM MYSELF- I lacked self-awareness so I didn’t know what I wanted or, if I did, how to get it.

2.    I DIDN’T KNOW MY LIFE PURPOSE—which meant that instead of leading my life, I was following it around.

3.    I WAS SCARED- I let the prospect of money seduce me out of integrity with myself. Fear does that to us, if we let it.

4.    I WAS INAUTHENTIC, AN IMPOSTER—I pretended I knew things I didn’t know, I acted as though I had it all together when I didn’t, and I was living someone else’s   life, not my own.

All of which made me MISERABLE!

What did I LEARN? More than I have time to write on this page, or that you have time to read.

But here are the BIG THREE YOU ABSOLUTELY MUST KNOW so that you don’t make the same mistakes I did.

1. NEVER, ever, ever, agree to do anything incongruent with your life purpose, for any reason or for any amount of money.

Know what your purpose is, and never stray from it. PERIOD. End of sentence.

2. Be fully ENGAGED and present in your life. It will increase your self-confidence and self-trust, both of which are required to live a life of authenticity while empowering others to do the same.

3. Being fully accountable for your life means being able to articulate your PERSONAL BRAND and, as a result, your gifts and talent: Both necessary ingredients to have IMPACT and make a PERSONALLY MEANINGFUL DIFFERENCE in the world.

Why am I telling you all this?

Why am I confessing to something you otherwise would never have known about?  Why am I willing to expose my life’s greatest gaffe?

Because even though I did, YOU DON’T HAVE TO MAKE THESE MISTAKES!

I spent 15 years researching and examining why I did what I did, and why tens of thousands of you do the same exact thing.

Once I squeezed every bit of practical wisdom out of this experience (and many others like it), I developed an extraordinary adventure to help women and men just like you to avoid the ongoing disappointment of failing to turn your potential into performance.

Click here to find out more about how to turn YOUR POTENTIAL INTO PERFORMANCE…..

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2 thoughts on “The Most Humiliating Thing I’ve Ever Done!

  1. Actually, I look back on it now and giggle uncontrollably. No one in Hollywood could have written that script. Had they, no one would believe it. Ahhh the lessons we learn on our path to authenticity.

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