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When I first coined the term Permission 2.0 in 2004, I was looked at rather oddly, and I was frequently asked to repeat myself (neither of which is actually rare). Reminiscent of the 1950’s, the notion of permission still carried with it the stigma of political incorrectness. I found that people either denied its role in their success or treated the word like toxic waste.
The current incarnation of ‘permission’ was born out of, and is anchored to, the notion that we arrived on our birth day equipped with everything we need to live our life purpose and to have maximum impact. What is required of us to live invincibly is that we:
• Make room for something that already exists
• Give it permission to express itself
• Provide it with an environment in which it can flourish
In a sentence: Permission 2.0 is an invitation to get out of the way of our dreams, aspirations and desires, and to stop interrupting our own success.
You know what that sounds like: “But, but , but……” Please, ladies, let’s put those ‘buts’ behind us, where they belong.
It seemed revolutionary when I first realized that if we want to “turn our potential into performance,” we don’t have to do anything; we have to stop doing some things.
Think about it—we already have everything we need to be successful. We just have to sit still and take a comprehensive inventory of what we already have. We are already the person we strive to be.
We don’t have to do one more thing to become more of, or better at, who we are already. We can RELAX. Our ‘only’ job is to show up as authentically, as truthfully, as transparently and as congruently as humanly possible.
Here’s the real beauty of the thing: It’s our choice alone— and there are few places in life where we can honestly claim that. The decision to be ourselves and to both risk the vulnerability that comes with it, and reap the infinite rewards as a result of having done so, is entirely up to us.
No one else gets to weigh in on the decision. There’s no committee, no consensus, no vote but our own. How liberating is that!
All of that time we spent improving ourselves, saving ourselves, and changing ourselves could have been better spent just being ourselves. All of that energy could have been put toward becoming the woman we want to grow into. To think of the tens of thousands of dollars we’ve spent on therapy getting to that very basic conclusion: That we were okay to start with and then the world around us messed us up a bit. Now that we’re the down road some distance, we can take what we learned from the fallout, and turn it into something usable for our future, for who we are planning to become when we give ourselves even more permission 2.0.
NOTE: Permission 2.0 has nothing to do with becoming someone we’re not, and every thing to do with being more of who we already are.
Phew! Now isn’t that’s a relief?
BTW: This also means that we don’t have to feel compelled to compare ourselves to the airbrushed teenagers on the covers of the women’s magazines at the check out stands either. Collective sigh.
This was taken from chapter 24 in my book, “Impact! What Every Woman Needs to Know to Go From Invisible to Invincible.” You can get your own copy here.
I’d love to know how you’re giving yourself permission in your personal and professional life. You can write to me at nancy@NancyDSolomon.com and I’ll make every effort to personally get back to you.
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