WOULD YOU BE HAPPIER IF YOU BROKE A FEW RULES?

May25
My brother died when we were little kids. At the time, my mom was too steeped in sorrow and pain to say much of anything to me: It seemed that breathing, itself, was excruciating for her. But there was this one thing … It was something that I was far too young to understand, but not too young that I didn’t know it was important to remember. “I did everything right. I read every book on how to raise a child. I kept you on a sche...
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THANK YOU on International Women’s Day

Mar08
The "Fearless Girl" statue faces Wall Street's "Charging Bull" statue. (Mark Lennihan / Associated Press) Over the course of many incarnations in the personal growth field, I have had the incomparable honor to stand before thousands of women from all over the world. In a multitude of roles, I have spoken on behalf of myself, in defense of others, and on the part of women who, however incorrectly, perceived that I have a voice greater than their ...
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THE BEST WAY TO HANDLE ALTERNATE FACTS ON THE JOB

Feb02
“I can’t believe it! He lied to me!” This from Wendy, a long-term (and much respected) coaching client, heatedly calling me in the middle of the day. “Who lied to you?” “Angus. For six-months he’s looked me straight in the eye during our one-on-ones, and in my review, and he blatantly lied to me. I could be sick right now!” Here’s the backstory... Over the course of several months Wendy and I had rigorously positi...
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AN OPEN LETTER TO HIGH POTENTIAL, UNDERACHIEVING WOMEN

Jan05
Dear High Potential, Underachieving Friend, I’ve been wanting to have this conversation with you for quite some time but, I confess, I’ve been a wimp. I know, I know…. You see me as a powerful woman who never holds back, so I betrayed both of us, didn’t I? Please know that this letter is tinged with the embarrassment that comes with not having had the courage to confront you sooner. But wimp no more! What I’ve been wanti...
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10 Characteristics of Confident Women

May05
Michelle walked into the meeting and all heads turned. The group felt her presence before they even saw her. Slight in stature, Michelle’s head was held high, her posture straight and her eye contact direct. She took in the room, smiled at her colleagues and headed for the power seat. Then she called the meeting to order. Michelle is a supremely confident woman. But that was not always the case. Just six months prior, her manager called m...
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Are You Competent OR Are You Liked?

Jun05
Yes, you read that correctly. In 2003 Harvard Business School conducted what is commonly known as the Heidi/ Howard Study on gender differences. Subsequently there has been significant research supporting the study’s conclusion, which is that women are perceived as either being competent OR likable, but rarely both. This double bind for women in large part stems from 'role congruity'—our expectations of how women and men are 'supposed' to b...
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Congratulations! You’re An UNLeader!

Jan29
It started as a whisper, a murmur, a mere hint of a change. A dozen years later, it's picking up momentum; not yet a revolution or even a movement, but something deeper and more meaningful. It's happening one person at a time which makes it inevitable, sustainable and ultimately invaluable. I'm speaking to the subject of how we 'hold' leadership (or, more specifically, leaders): How we define it, live it and look for it. If you read my blog: ...
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Six Things We Lose When We Win

Nov27
On a good day, losing isn't fun. On a bad day losing can hurt, embarrass, anger, humiliate or shame us. Losing can fire up our fear, drum up our doubt, or kill our confidence. In fact, if we don’t feel some degree of ‘pinch’ when we lose, we probably didn’t want whatever it was badly enough and, therefore, we didn’t really lose, did we? Do you know why so many people utterly blow their lottery winnings? It's because they didn...
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GOING THROUGH A BIG CHANGE? 5 Things To Make YOUR Hard Time Easier

Nov12
Change is hard. Transformation is hard. Hard is not relative. Hard is hard. Chemotherapy is hard. Getting laid off is hard. Bankruptcy is hard. An out-of-control teenager is hard. The end of a relationship is hard. Fill in your own blank ________ There are many of us who will tell you to watch your mouth; to speaking consciously and be aware of the words (and energy) you put out there. I am one of the people who reminds you to use po...
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