LEADERS: Are You For or Against This?

May31
Sometime during the interminable Presidential campaign of 2016, a client said to me, aghast, “Seriously, you're pro-choice? How can that be? You’re the mom of two adopted kids!” She thought these two things were mutually exclusive; for me they most definitely were not. It was the first time I’d ever felt like an axe murderer. When her flushed face faded back to norm, I explained that just because I'm pro-choice does NOT automat...
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RULE #1 KEEP YOUR KNEES TOGETHER: What Women Who Lead Can Learn About Executive Presence from Kellyanne Conway

Mar03
It was the picture that went round the world in a blink of the shutter…. Kellyanne Conway, senior advisor to The President, kneeling on a couch in the Oval Office. Around her stood dozens of Presidents of the HBCAU (Historically Black Colleges and Universities) who were gathered round The President in what appeared to be a photo opp. From what I can see from the photo, Kellyanne is the lone white woman in the room. (Yes, it is indeed ...
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4 Hard Leadership Lessons Learned From a Fallen Weiner

Sep08
Photo Credit: John Moore / Getty Images Portions of this blog were originally published in July, 2013. What's curious is that it's as relevant today (to both Weiner and our culture), as it was three years ago when it was first written. The salient question is this: What can we learn from Weiner, as leaders and as humans? Once again, politician Anthony Weiner has been caught in flagrante delicto. It’s deja vu, all over again. Just a fe...
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THE UNHEARD THIRD™: How to Identify, Grow and Retain Latent Leaders

Aug26
Leaders lead. Followers follow. And then there’s The Unheard Third™: The people in the middle who, for one reason or another, fall through the leadership cracks when they’re passed through or passed over. These latent leaders are the next generation achievers whose potential has yet to, or may never be, turned into performance: Failing to distinguish themselves from the rest of the pack, they just blend into the background. They’re l...
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The Ultimate Guide on How to Advance Women Now!

Aug05
She told me she felt dismissed, irrelevant, invisible. She told me she didn’t feel as though she mattered; she couldn’t recall the last time she’d been validated. She wondered what was wrong with her; what she could have done differently and what she should now do over. “She” is a leader-- a high potential senior manager who has worked for the same tech firm for the past decade. She loves her company, but she doesn’t thi...
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Don’t Call Me MS. BOSSY PANTS!

Jul07
A while ago I sent a business associate an email following up on an introduction she'd made for me. She responded with "I do appreciate your enthusiasm but it can feel a bit overbearing, to be honest." What?! First, I was flabbergasted! Then, I searched the online dictionary for the word 'overbearing'. After that, I was hurt. In case you're curious, the synonyms for overbearing are: bossy overly authoritative domineering au...
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It’s TOO HARD and It’s TOO MUCH WORK

Jun23
The Road to Hana, Maui, Hawaii It’s TOO HARD and it’s TOO MUCH WORK. ‘It’ is disappointing and exhausting, and you’re frustrated all the time. No one else seems to get ‘it’, and you find yourself second guessing your instincts, questioning your motives and doubting your judgment. The rewards for creating ‘it’ are so far off in the distance that you now wonder why you even thought ‘it’ was possible. And you keep a...
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Savvy, Sexy, Smart? Not on LinkedIn!

May26
Recently my 18-year-old daughter poked her head in the door of my office to let me know that she was headed out to spend time with her girlfriends. Distractedly, I looked up to say goodbye. I almost gave myself whiplash from the double take when I saw her. In place of my little girl stood a sexy, provocative, gorgeous, tiny ‘object’ dressed in skin-tight Lycra, over-the-knee heeled boots and make-up of the Kardashian kind. Talk t...
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Controlling or In Control? How to Tell the Difference

Feb23
controlling “My manager, co-worker, partner, friend, brother……. told me I was controlling!” Never met a woman who hasn’t been called controlling at least once in her life. For many of us, it’s a monthly event. (I confess that for me it’s a weekly thing). Sometimes it stings. Sometimes it pisses us off. Sometimes we ignore it, or pretend to be hard of hearing. Rarely does it not affect us. Often we simply shake our heads in disbelief, knowi...
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